You skip lunch breaks.
You answer emails on holiday.
You only allow rest once everything is done – except everything is never done.
And even when you do take a moment to breathe, stretch, or simply sit still, a familiar feeling bubbles up: guilt.
If this sounds like you, there’s nothing wrong with you, you simply have been conditioned against rest.
As the Queen of Rest, I work with brilliant, purpose-driven women and men who are deeply tired but their nervous system is wired to equate rest with weakness, laziness, or indulgence.
The truth? Rest isn’t something you earn. Rest is a foundational biological need.
It’s not the opposite of success—it’s the foundation of it.
In this blog, I’ll show you why rest often feels uncomfortable (especially for high achievers), where guilt around rest comes from, and how you can begin to rewrite your relationship with rest, one micro-practice at a time. That’s right. You don’t need a week long holiday, or a 2 hour meditation session. We begin with micro-moments of rest.
How to Stop Feeling Guilty About Rest
Even once you understand that rest matters… guilt doesn’t always go away.
That’s because guilt isn’t just a mindset—it’s a nervous system response.
When you’ve spent years (or decades) earning love, belonging, or success through doing, your body is wired to perceive rest as unsafe.
Sitting down without checking one more thing off the list might feel… uncomfortable. Agitating. Even scary.
That’s okay. You’re not doing it wrong.
You’re re-wiring something very deep.
Here are three Queen-of-Rest strategies to help you release guilt gently and sustainably:
- Start with Micro-Moments of Rest
- Anchor Your Rest in Purpose
- Practice Self-Talk that Regulates
Over time, my clients often notice a shift. By regularly pausing and asking what kind of rest they need, they begin to feel safer in their own bodies—less reactive, more intuitive. It’s like finding a hidden reset button that gives them confidence, clarity, and a sense of being in control again.
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Every time you rest without guilt, you model a new way of being.
You reclaim your sovereignty. You rewrite the story.
When you learn to rest without guilt, you don’t just feel better, you feel safer, more in control, and more connected to your own inner wisdom.
If this speaks to your soul, I invite you to explore The Gift of Rest or book a Rest Consultation. It’s time to lead from a place of restful power and wholeness, not depletion.